What specific challenge did you face in college, and how did overcoming it shape your motivation?
One of the hardest challenges I faced during college was to say ‘NO’ to my newly met hostel buddies! 📌
Ask yourselves, How dare you be to say ‘No’ to your roommates and hostel friends?
Seriously, it was one of the nightmares. 😨
Yet, I had to take a call on going with their flow or reject them every time they called me out for a weekend trip or a movie night.
Of course, I went with their flow for almost a semester. But, gradually shifted pace to a point, where they understood my efforts and left me to do my work.
It was tough but worth it. 😇
I’m deeply grateful for my first-year hostel buddies, who supported me by understanding my contrast in thoughts.
I was not left alone, because what happened to me was finding like-minded pals who resonated with my ‘workaholic’ vibe.
After a couple of weeks, I realised that the vibes never matched with any other circles as well. The mismatch in vibe kept continuing from circle to circle, and I wasn’t matching a full vibe with any of the circles.
BUT, one thing I could consciously say with all my wits, and for which I’m still grateful, and will be grateful for is
None of these circles forced me to stay or leave. I had a choice!
It was because, in every circle I was a part of, I had a 2% vibe match. When the 2% occasion comes in, I’ll be in touch with them and then disappear. Not so proud, but that naturally worked out.
✅ This has helped me be part of many friendship circles, rather than one.
Looking back on my college days, I see many different sets of people spread across the country, with different interests and domains.
✅ I felt like a tangent to all those friends’ circles!
✅ I also feel that being tangential can even be cultivated as a new skill.
What do you think? Would you be tangential?
According to you, is that a skill to be cultivated?