Know how to knock down your self-doubts and seek the right info!

College Covets | A Monthly Newsletter via LinkedIn | G Surendar Thina

Why should you get exposure to the industry before graduation?

Let’s start with what exposure is! Check out the second meaning in the below screenshot!

This is very true, and it is for this reason alone that students are kept safe in their schools or colleges from being exposed to the industry. But, after protecting them from harm for 4 solid years, they put them on the battlefield right after their final year and expect them to face all the hard reality. How’s this acceptable? How can every student manage to deal with hardship on the battlefield?

Consider a child being exposed to weapons and fights, trained from a small age with one purpose: to expand boundaries; another child being in the house without any exposure to any weapons or fights.

The child with exposure (Chex) gradually learns how to use weapons, how to fight, how to tackle enemies, etc. He also understands the strategies that real fighters use in the field during their training.

The child without exposure (Chnoex) gets to learn the names of some popular weapons and fights rarely. He hardly gets a chance to touch or feel the weapons in real life, as he’s always kept safe at home. He never understood why people fight and never got the point of expanding boundaries.

The parents of both these children are aware that they will be asked to go to battle one day. They clearly knew that one day they would have to fight. As per the latest info, he is aware that there is a battle coming after 4 years.

However, Chnoex convinces himself that he can very well handle the battle, as he is learning about all the weapons that were used by his ancestors, knows how they work, and is also aware of the possible new weapons in the next decades.

On the other hand, Chex wasn’t bothered about when the battle would come. He didn’t know about all the weapons, but he knew how to use them. He takes care of his weapons and repairs them if they don’t work. Though he was interested and curious about futuristic weapons, he didn’t worry about them until they came into existence.

As usual, the situation of battle arises. But, much ahead of the anticipated time. This was a small battle, though, and Chex was a part of it, whereas Chnoex was merely trying to get updates on these small battles, as he was mentally preparing himself for the bigger one. Similar battles come and go every half year, and the same thing happens.

Four years have passed, and the anticipated battle is about to come. While Chex was doing his regular practice, Chnoex was so serious about finding the apti-weapon to tackle down the first round of the battle. He was preparing for one kind of battle that used to be big during his ancestors’ days, for which he had been preparing mentally for all these years.

During the battle, Chex never bothered about who the opponent was. He was more focused on his vision of expanding boundaries. However, Chnoex was focusing on those specific opponents whom he had learnt about and kept targetting them. He didn’t bother if they were actually their target. He followed other people based on what he heard from his ancestors. He was more focused on the pride of knocking down the top targets and was very concerned about his titles and the taste of success in winning the battle.

Days passed. On the final day of battle, both of them survive by giving their best! As usual, Chex kept smashing down any targets that came his way. While Chnoex was waiting for his next target, he also fell into a trap that even his ancestors never knew about. It was purely a lack of awareness that let him fall into the trap set by some targets. While Chex could easily tackle the trap, as he was focused on any targets that comes to him, and was not distracted by waiting for an anticipated one — it was that random unexpected moment when a Giant Hulky target smashed down a bunch of people, and Chnoex was one among them!

With no other options, Chnoex was captured by one of these Giants and he had to stay in its cell for a certain number of years… … …

I’ll leave it open for you to finish the story!

This is the actual scenario we all face in our college! Most of us are just like the Chnoex. We are all working on academics and forget to get hands-on industry knowledge. Due to this, all we do is prepare mentally and when the placements start, we work on apti and get through the initial rounds of those selected companies. However, towards the end, we end up in those Big Gaint MNCs which puts you into an illusion of high standards, but pulls you down in your growth chart!

It’s time to take action, Now!

While getting yourself shaped with great exposure, there’s a high chance of hitting self-doubts. Here is a way to knock down your self-doubts!

Doubting yourself on your strengths is very common, and unavoidable. However, it is not hard to overcome!

🧐 On some random days, have you been exhausted and unable to sleep yet?

🧐 Have you ever felt worthless in spite of doing a lot?

🧐 Do you sometimes think that people with similar visions are ahead of you, and what can you do going this late?

🧐 Ever felt to quit and drop your vision for someone?

Take a deep breath; Smile!

👐 Don’t worry! You’re not alone! Many of us have got at least one of these thoughts during our life so far.

I have felt all of these, and even many more which brought great realisations!

Self Doubts are not rare. They come hand in hand with our efforts and achievements.

This may be a problem for you, but it is not created by you, but it’s also not external. Cheers! 😂 Your brain/mind is the culprit. Indeed it is the culprit most of the time when you feel bad about yourself.

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Here are the simple steps to overcome self-doubts

👉 It’s important to keep reminding your brain about your constant efforts to work on something big that’s coming by. This can be a quick anecdote to jump out of your brain’s control. This is very common and should be followed by many.

Once you manage to get out of your brain’s control over you, it is now easier to perform the below steps

👉 List down every problem that comes to your mind. Be very specific to your point. It may be something that is caused by others or the ones that you think you have caused, the thing you want to do, the blockages in your vision, the stuff that drains your energy, etc.

This is very critical, as you have to be genuine about listing down all of them

👉 List down the reasons for the above against each problem. These reasons need not be the perfect reason. Most of the time, we may not know the reasons for our problems or doubts. You can consult with your go-to person and get ideas.

Yet, don’t take that very seriously. Just consider it to help you list your reasons.

👉 List down the actionable to overcome the reasons. For every reason, there are two actions you can take. One, realize that it is not in your control; move on. Two, realize that it is only under your control and none can help you with it; knock them down.

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One thing you’d all realize in common is, that it’s the external factors that influence your problems and not just you. Hence, seek external help from Friends, Family & Mentors depending on the problem.

By this, you’ll attain most of the root cause (potential) for your problems.

🙌 Re-iterate this process, you’ll find more relevant and meaningful outcomes to burn down your self-doubts. Share it with someone who needs this.

Once you manage to do this process, you’ll find out something very clear in your journey forward. It will also fuel your further reiterations of nailing your self-doubts. It’s nothing but, seeking the right info. Let’s see how to seek the right info!

Aren’t you getting the answers to any of your questions? Even if you get them, are they not satisfying your needs? Why is it that you end up with questions every time you ask for an answer?

Here are my views on these.

We can never get the right answers unless we search for them in the right place. Even if you search for it in the exact place, without a proper question you wouldn’t be able to get the right answer. When your question is not proper, your answers will confuse you more and leave you with more questions.

👉 Seeking your HSP

We all search for the answer for our happiness, satisfaction & peace (HSP) from the people around us. Is that the right place to find your HSP? Seeking an answer for your HSP from someone else would undoubtedly put you disappointed.

It might sound philosophical, but it can be very well understood by thinking in terms of HSP and can be applied to anything in your life!

As most of you already know, the right place to identify your HSP is within you. You need to seek it from your inner self. Now, being aware of the right place to ask your question, without knowing how to seek your HSP, you’re not going to get it.

Learning to love yourself, being contented & subtracting unwanted thoughts and emotions can be the right way to seek your HSP

👉 The Wrong Question

If you can’t love yourself and still seek happiness, you’re asking the wrong question.

If you can’t be contented with what you have and still seek satisfaction, you’re asking the wrong question.

If you can’t unlearn/subtract and still seek peace, you’re asking the wrong question.

I agree that being able to ask the right question by ensuring the above points is challenging. None of us has mastered it yet. However, rephrasing the questions every time can help us attain a better question every time we ask one.

👉 What’s the right question then?

The right question is something that you seek. There may be no right question, but there is always a better question that’s more right. In the journey of seeking a better question, we all can live a life with the best HSP — happiness, satisfaction & peace!

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The idealogy behind the name Master-You is very simple.

Connecting the master to you! See the significance of that hyphen there. It’s the link between you and the master of what you want to become! Wow!!

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